We all have that person in our life that gets under our skin. That the mere thought of them brings up feelings of anxiety, frustration, anger. Yep. That's the one - you know who I am talking about! Do you ever wonder why that person is in your life? Why, when you would so otherwise choose to NOT have that person in your life? Oh my, the answer is so obvious that we often overlook it!
These are the people that act as our mirrors. These are the ever-so-important teachers that come into our lives to give us the chance to explore ourselves deeper. They are the "button-pushers" for a reason: we NEED them. We need to have them hold up a mirror for us to show us that we are not better or worse than anyone else and that we are not alone. "Every aspect (of human nature) that exists on the planet exists within you." ("Courage to Love Yourself", Janice Mae Parviainen). If we didn't have these people who get under our skin come into our lives and hold up that mirror for us, we wouldn't have the opportunity to recognize that which we don't like, or wish we could change about ourselves. You see, we wouldn't be able to recognize those traits in others, if we first didn't recognize them in ourselves. For you to know someone is happy, you yourself must know how happy feels. For you to know joy, sorrow, love, envy, anger; you yourself must know how joy, sorrow, love, envy and anger feel. For you to know what forgiveness looks like, you yourself must feel forgiveness first.
These people, our mirrors, triggers, "button-pushers" are NOT there to make our lives difficult! In fact, the opposite is true. They are there as teachers and they are a great gift! They are in our lives to encourage us to see the truth about ourselves. They are there to inspire change in our lives. They are there to push us along the path of evolution or ascension. You will notice that these "button-pushers" often come into our lives, create chaos or drama at the least appropriate times...this is no accident, but an opportunity for you to change your pattern, change that behaviour in yourself that is festering in your world.
Sometimes it is hard to accept that these traits or behaviours are a part of us, but the simple truth of it is that if they didn't keep popping up around us in annoying ways it wouldn't be OUR lesson to learn. And in those moments we have a CHOICE - do we keep reliving the behaviours or do we take the opportunity to learn from them? If we choose to learn from them and challenge ourselves to break our patterns or behaviours that we don't like or no longer need, we will find that we are able to reclaim our power and inner authority. You see, we are NOT changing the emotion of anger, for example, but we are changing the way that we express that anger. It is OKAY to feel it, but the way we express it is often what upsets us. When we honor and acknowledge our emotions or behaviours (even the ones we don't like) we have a choice and a chance to change the outward expression of them. Reclaiming our personal power lies within being aware of the choice and finding solitude in the inner authority that grants us the personal permission to make significant changes in our lives.
This week, don't look at the "button-pushers" in your life as a pain in the ass. Look at them as gifts and teachers and give yourself the space and personal permission to honor your truest self by making the changes in your life that best suit you.
Dream it. Live it. BE IT.
Juli
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Everything is as it should be...
Thankfully, a dear friend introduced me to "Messages from the Universe" where I receive a message everyday from http://www.tut.com/. They are inspirational and profound messages that you can ponder for the day or use as a focus of daily meditation. Part of the message that I received today, read:
As some of you know, I am working on a book right now. I was struggling with having the time and the connection to make any satisfying progress with it. This message couldn't have come at a more timely time for me. This last week, I have allowed for major adjustments in my life. I took the time to slow down, and listen, and re-connect with my "core values" and to feel again. I have always said that a cluttered house is a cluttered mind - so with the help of a great friend, I have been physically purging my house, room by room, closet by closet. Releasing that which we no longer need both in my home and in my mind. Not only do I physically feel lighter, but I emotionally feel lighter! My body is a pretty amazing pendulum these days! If it doesn't feel like it is 'sitting right' with me, I am releasing it from my life. I am allowing, and going with the flow again. And in freeing up my time and energy with the need for busy-ness or the hurried-ness of life I have allowed for the things that are really and truly tugging my heart strings.
I have learned that in allowing and listening to how my body is responding to the dreaded three "C's" (circumstances, committees and commitments), I have found the strength and enough courage to let go. In doing so, I find myself honoring my own sacred vortex. I am the center and I am drawing to me the potentiality of my dreams and beyond. My "me-time" perspective has shifted, and creative thoughts and time to write can happen at anytime of the day - and some of the best moments happen when you are completely engaged in another task or conversation and your mind isn't even thinking about writing. When all of a sudden you realize that this conversation, this experience was DIVINELY guided and in it holds an important lesson and message for you...ta-da! My vortex is amazing - an I am so thankful to be back at the center and working and living in my truth!
So, in answer to the question that the Universe proposed to me this morning...my answer is no - I don't feel disadvantaged anymore!
In thanks, to the Universe for asking the question, and to the "Courage Cards" by Janice Mae Parviainen for gifting me the clarity,
Juli
"What if feelings of uncertainty and confusion were only reminders that you have options, that there's no hurry, and that everything is as it should be... Would you still feel disadvantaged?"We live such a fast paced life, so busy - all day. Even now as I type this message, I know that I have to hurry along to pick up my son from school! There is always something pressing us to live faster. Often when we are stuck in life or we feel like things aren't happening the way we want them to or as fast as we want them to, it is because we are too busy trying to hurry everything up and force things to happen. I have been trying to schedule "me-time", trying to force ideas and thoughts...and we all know how well that works! I was feeling at a loss because for all my trying - I didn't feel like I was making any significant progress. Well, no more trying!
As some of you know, I am working on a book right now. I was struggling with having the time and the connection to make any satisfying progress with it. This message couldn't have come at a more timely time for me. This last week, I have allowed for major adjustments in my life. I took the time to slow down, and listen, and re-connect with my "core values" and to feel again. I have always said that a cluttered house is a cluttered mind - so with the help of a great friend, I have been physically purging my house, room by room, closet by closet. Releasing that which we no longer need both in my home and in my mind. Not only do I physically feel lighter, but I emotionally feel lighter! My body is a pretty amazing pendulum these days! If it doesn't feel like it is 'sitting right' with me, I am releasing it from my life. I am allowing, and going with the flow again. And in freeing up my time and energy with the need for busy-ness or the hurried-ness of life I have allowed for the things that are really and truly tugging my heart strings.
I have learned that in allowing and listening to how my body is responding to the dreaded three "C's" (circumstances, committees and commitments), I have found the strength and enough courage to let go. In doing so, I find myself honoring my own sacred vortex. I am the center and I am drawing to me the potentiality of my dreams and beyond. My "me-time" perspective has shifted, and creative thoughts and time to write can happen at anytime of the day - and some of the best moments happen when you are completely engaged in another task or conversation and your mind isn't even thinking about writing. When all of a sudden you realize that this conversation, this experience was DIVINELY guided and in it holds an important lesson and message for you...ta-da! My vortex is amazing - an I am so thankful to be back at the center and working and living in my truth!
So, in answer to the question that the Universe proposed to me this morning...my answer is no - I don't feel disadvantaged anymore!
In thanks, to the Universe for asking the question, and to the "Courage Cards" by Janice Mae Parviainen for gifting me the clarity,
Juli
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
HELP!
Isn't it awesome how a word as simple as HELP! can be so hard to say?
Often on life's journey we feel like we are working through our "stuff" alone. We travel our paths with friends and family, but when it comes to actually processing the garbage and recycling of our minds and emotional bodies, we feel totally alone. Our thoughts are hard to share with others, our ego tricks us to believe that we are the only ones feeling this way or that. And we begin to shut down, we find it hard to express ourselves, and to share what is weighing on our heart.
The truth of it is that we are NOT alone. We all feel love, anger, guilt, hatred, joy, regret, bliss, and uncertainty. At one point in time, we all experience these emotions - we are all "spiritual beings having a human experience" - and part of that experience includes feeling the full gamut of emotions that the world around us offers to share. It is by talking about these feelings, and experiencing and expressing these emotions that we can grow. That we can ascend. That we can overcome and breakthrough the patterns that hold us captive to the past. A past that no longer serves our highest and best intentions for self and others.
We quite simply have to express what is working in our hearts - our truth. The truth about how we feel, about how we think. And if we can have the COURAGE to speak what we need to, share what is going on inside of us we will find that we are not alone at all. There are others within our circle that are feeling the same as we are, going through the same emotions as we are. And when we have courage to talk about it, you lend courage to others to talk about it. Life is NOT one thing after another - it is the SAME thing over and over and over...we keep feeling, we keep processing, we keep experiencing. When we have the courage to share with others we will gain strength and confidence in ourselves and we will find freedom, expansiveness, authenticity, harmony, potentiality, love, joy and even bliss.
I will use myself as an example. My life is an open book - you ask, I tell - and probably more details than you care to know. Many of you know that when I came home from recent mission work in Guatemala, I brought home a parasite. This "bug" feasted on me for weeks before I asked for help and started openly talking about what was going on with me. I started sharing what the parasite was physically doing to me and the effects of the treatment for it. Wouldn't you know, that I am not the only one who suffered outrageous hemorrhoids from pooping so much? Do you know that almost every woman out there suffers hemorrhoids or has at some point in their life? So, I was able to connect with others, and learn about different courses of treatment. I mean, seriously, this is not something that people talk about...ever! But once I started talking about it, I find that along with hemorrhoids, there are feelings of isolation, embarrassment, frustration and even anger. Who knew, I instantly felt better knowing that I am not alone, that others are suffering through the same thing - and even the same emotions! I know that this is absolutely outrageous to blog about such a thing, but what do I have to gain by hiding it? What do I have to gain from suffering through it in silence? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! By sharing my experience, I have created freedom around it! By talking about it, I (hopefully) have passed on valuable treatment options to others. By opening up and expressing how I was feeling about it, others now know that they are not alone.
"Help!" for women is the last word in the dictionary...and that is why we multi-task. It is easier to do things yourself than to ask for help. That is why we take on so much "stuff" and "stuff" that isn't even ours to take on in the first place! If we fail to ask for help, we will get inundated with life, with "stuff" and the more we get buried in all the "stuff" the harder and longer it takes to get out.
So, just for today, ask for help. Start small, ask small. Expect a "Yes!" because you deserve a "Yes!"
But, if the answer happens to be a no, that is okay - you still asked - and that takes courage! Hold a little experiment, find someone close and say "Today, I am really feeling ______" and you fill in the blank. See what kind of response you get. The more open you are to sharing the truth about what you are feeling the closer you get to your authentic self. It is time for all of us to reconnect our lives with our emotions and thoughts and by doing so we live our truth. We live our best life. And that is a life worth living!
Consider that...
Blessings,
Juli
Often on life's journey we feel like we are working through our "stuff" alone. We travel our paths with friends and family, but when it comes to actually processing the garbage and recycling of our minds and emotional bodies, we feel totally alone. Our thoughts are hard to share with others, our ego tricks us to believe that we are the only ones feeling this way or that. And we begin to shut down, we find it hard to express ourselves, and to share what is weighing on our heart.
The truth of it is that we are NOT alone. We all feel love, anger, guilt, hatred, joy, regret, bliss, and uncertainty. At one point in time, we all experience these emotions - we are all "spiritual beings having a human experience" - and part of that experience includes feeling the full gamut of emotions that the world around us offers to share. It is by talking about these feelings, and experiencing and expressing these emotions that we can grow. That we can ascend. That we can overcome and breakthrough the patterns that hold us captive to the past. A past that no longer serves our highest and best intentions for self and others.
We quite simply have to express what is working in our hearts - our truth. The truth about how we feel, about how we think. And if we can have the COURAGE to speak what we need to, share what is going on inside of us we will find that we are not alone at all. There are others within our circle that are feeling the same as we are, going through the same emotions as we are. And when we have courage to talk about it, you lend courage to others to talk about it. Life is NOT one thing after another - it is the SAME thing over and over and over...we keep feeling, we keep processing, we keep experiencing. When we have the courage to share with others we will gain strength and confidence in ourselves and we will find freedom, expansiveness, authenticity, harmony, potentiality, love, joy and even bliss.
I will use myself as an example. My life is an open book - you ask, I tell - and probably more details than you care to know. Many of you know that when I came home from recent mission work in Guatemala, I brought home a parasite. This "bug" feasted on me for weeks before I asked for help and started openly talking about what was going on with me. I started sharing what the parasite was physically doing to me and the effects of the treatment for it. Wouldn't you know, that I am not the only one who suffered outrageous hemorrhoids from pooping so much? Do you know that almost every woman out there suffers hemorrhoids or has at some point in their life? So, I was able to connect with others, and learn about different courses of treatment. I mean, seriously, this is not something that people talk about...ever! But once I started talking about it, I find that along with hemorrhoids, there are feelings of isolation, embarrassment, frustration and even anger. Who knew, I instantly felt better knowing that I am not alone, that others are suffering through the same thing - and even the same emotions! I know that this is absolutely outrageous to blog about such a thing, but what do I have to gain by hiding it? What do I have to gain from suffering through it in silence? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! By sharing my experience, I have created freedom around it! By talking about it, I (hopefully) have passed on valuable treatment options to others. By opening up and expressing how I was feeling about it, others now know that they are not alone.
"Help!" for women is the last word in the dictionary...and that is why we multi-task. It is easier to do things yourself than to ask for help. That is why we take on so much "stuff" and "stuff" that isn't even ours to take on in the first place! If we fail to ask for help, we will get inundated with life, with "stuff" and the more we get buried in all the "stuff" the harder and longer it takes to get out.
So, just for today, ask for help. Start small, ask small. Expect a "Yes!" because you deserve a "Yes!"
But, if the answer happens to be a no, that is okay - you still asked - and that takes courage! Hold a little experiment, find someone close and say "Today, I am really feeling ______" and you fill in the blank. See what kind of response you get. The more open you are to sharing the truth about what you are feeling the closer you get to your authentic self. It is time for all of us to reconnect our lives with our emotions and thoughts and by doing so we live our truth. We live our best life. And that is a life worth living!
Consider that...
Blessings,
Juli
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